a little light reading

Posted on May 28, 2019 by Miriam McCaleb

Kia Ora e hoa ma,

This picture shows me holding a few of the books I’m kinda simultaneously reading. How’s the attentional bandwith, you may ask? Yeah, well you oughta see my piles of papers … and the electronic files all over my desktop (the ones awaiting printing!). Does your brain ever feel itchy with the awareness of it all? At least I have the blessed luxury of this website as a place to clean up the jumble of my tabs! Let’s do that now, eh?

First, a comprehensive report from our cousins across the Tasman, about the first 1000 days and the opportunities for investment, support. Brought to my attention by the good peeps at ARACY: the Australian Research Alliance for Children and Youth. Kia Ora!

Next, a few links about early childhood education. This is a report emphasising the importance of ECE from a financial perspective, here are a few goodies from the awesome Evolutionary Parenting website (ECE as allocare … when it’s done well, I say “hell, yeah!”), and here is a piece about play based learning in Nova Scotia, Canada.

Now … this is a small but important piece about the problems with using food as a play material in ECE settings. I’ve had this debate – I distinctly remember a training in San Diego, CA, in about 1999, where I explained that kiwi early childhood teachers hadn’t been using food in play since I could remember. And friends, I trained in the early 90’s, not yesterday. BUT… full disclosure: I have never been able to reconcile my effortless acceptance of removing rice/pasta etc from collage areas AND my deep, abiding love of play dough. I am a work in progress. Speaking of food: random link here from Harvard Medical School: new findings in praise of broccoli. Yum!

Now, some links about play … here is an article from the New York Times about the adventure playgrounds that seem to be coming back into vogue (right on!) … reminds me of the one I long to visit in Tokyo, featured in the book Savage Park (which I devoured). Whilst on the topic of adventurous play, the NY Times article references some research done here in NZ, and you can read about it HERE.

Oh, while we are thinking about international research … this piece from the awesome Conversation website is about talking to babies all over the world, and included the shocking stat that 95% of the world’s developmental science research is done on only 5% of the world’s populations. Holy ding dong!

Now, from Psychology Today … it’s about letting toddlers help. While we are talking about toddlers, I humbly share a piece I wrote a few years back for my pals at OHbaby! mag. I adore toddlers and will defend them, always.

Hey … I talked about the Evolutionary Parenting website back there? Here is a link so you can listen to her founder, Tracy Cassels, interviewed by Australian breastfeeding advocate, Pinky McKay. I seriously rate Pinky, I just wish she didn’t encourage mums to include their phones and tv remotes in their breastfeeding support package, alongside their water bottles and (awesomely named) boobie bikkies. What’s my beef? I insist that we must all Beware the still face of parental phone use!

For now, I am going to hurl a slew of tech related links at you, then do some non-computer stuff my damn self! My shoulders insist !

Right ho, so this is a piece I wrote for the fine folk at Tots to Teens, here is a piece from the Guardian about how people’s lives have changed since they got phones for their kids (the good, the bad …) and here are a bunch of links to reports from the 5rights peeps in the UK. I was wowed by their “Disrupted Childhood” report, about persuasive tech. And now (irony!) I want to stay online and read all the others!

THIS is a good read, from Forbes, about the push toward ‘personalized learning’ (ie, tech in classrooms) and here is something about tech in the home from a dad’s point of view, from the San Francisco Chronicle . While we’re thinking of dads, here are some interesting findings about paternity leave in Spain.

What else? A cry for more time being barefoot, some interesting findings from Australia about elitism, sexism, and the size of your school’s sport’s fields, and just because it’s been ages since I linked to the Talaris Institute and they’re awesome … check out these language links. Speaking of language(!!), with thanks to the Distinguished Professor who shared this blog (Discussion is the Food of Chiefs), enjoy.

Getting harder to type now, cos my fingers are crossed … why? Because I’m sincerely hoping the Wellbeing Budget will bear awesome fruit. Now gird your loins as you read this li’l something from the Spinoff about the problems with Plunket’s founder. Now, I adore Plunket as a supporter of families in NZ, but I don’t think it hurts to acknowledge that historical figures are flawed, and for contemporary biographies to describe more than one side of a person.

I don’t wish to end this post on such a downer note, so instead, here is an inspiring snack (I’m obsessed with that stuff!), an item I covet shamelessly, and finally … a lovely guided meditation.

Blessed be the geeks!

by the way …

Posted on June 29, 2018 by Miriam McCaleb

Kia Ora e hoa ma,

Hello friends.

As we honour our pals across the Pacific continuing to raise a loving hell on behalf of the babies that are being caged by Prez#45, (truly: my pal flew from SFO to DC to chant loudly and get arrested. Bless you, thank you!), those of us in somewhat saner Aotearoa deal with challenges of different sorts.

But we hold you (babies, children, immigrant mothers & fathers). We wrap our wings around you. Crikey, I feel an Einstein quote coming on:

“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”

Life is holy and complex, as it is mundane and relentless. The clock is a tyrant, and relationships are everything.

Anyway, friends, today’s picture is of the most recent issue of OHbaby! magazine, which holds two articles that I am proud to have written. One is about Respect, the other about toddler development. Which are a couple of my favourite subjects.

a wildly satisfying life!

Posted on May 14, 2018 by Miriam McCaleb

What’s up party people? Kia Ora te whānau!

I have just committed an act which could be described as mildly rebellious OR exceptionally sensible, depending upon yer point of view. When I could have (should have?) been hitting the books I was, instead, undulating my spine with the exceptional Kelle Rae Oien, who has been in NZ teaching. How lucky am I!?! Such joy. So sweaty!

I adore her language when she expresses her desire for her students to live lives that are wildly satisfying. Wildly satisfying! I dig that contrast. It’s like … passionately content. Enthusiastically calm. Playfully satiated. Wildly satisfying. Yeah, imma keep that one!

What else? Just had mother’s day … probably a good time to share this excellent article from Harper’s Bazaar about emotional labour (aka invisible labour, aka mental load, aka kin keeping). Oh, young women, study before you procreate! The mental and practical energy that it takes to keep the home fires burning while you’re committing the audacious act of betterment is something that you cannot possibly know, yet.

Casserole, school trip, reference list. Dishes, flu shots, literature review. Wha …?

Now, some links. Let’s clear a few tabs before I do battle with the referencing software. I know, I know, that is NOT the attitude. Not doing battle with, playing with! I’ll play with it…

First … here is an article that freaked me right out. It’s about the ways that millennial parents are raising their children. I could weep. The needs of human infants have not changed, just cos our technology has. Interesting that the writer acknowledges the longing that “parennials” (millennial parents, apparently) have for simpler times.

Meanwhile, from the Atlantic, another look at the tech habits of parents. This deserves multiple and repeated reads, cos I tell you what, it’ll take you to some terrifying places. Like this and this.

And you know the bit that kills me, crazy baby lady that I am? There is this cyclic thing going on, where new motherhood seems “boring”, and sure enough the literature points to women going online (eg during the intimate act of breastfeeding) because they are bored and seeking distraction. But by succumbing to the distraction, mothers aren’t practicing SEEING their babies. Really seeing them. And we know that with older kids, the distraction leads to child misbehaviour, which leads to parental dissatisfaction, which makes a big’ol’ downward spiral of technoference.

Boredom? What would happen if we could sit quietly with that, and even lean into it. Incredible things happen when we let ourselves just go with the tricky things that motherhood offers us – even exhaustion! (My struggles with describing invisible labour – what do those struggles offer me? I’ll report back!)

I remember when my girls were babies, (1 pre-, 1 post- smartphone) people would confess to being bored/lonely at home with their infants, and I would think that if they could only see their babies as the exceptional scientists, sociologists and artists that they are, and if we honoured the power of home visiting as transformative in the lives of families, then mamas would be neither bored nor lonely. There is something afoot with our culture that we deny so many people the chance to KNOW babies before they become parents themselves, then we physically isolate new mothers (now with a damaging tool for adult communication/distraction at their fingertips) and all the while we radically undervalue infants (and therefore parents).

Anyway, I gotta get dinner sorted before school pick up. We do a Meat Free Monday, and I try and make it extra delicious, so my omnivorous family won’t grouse. Also, it’s swimming lesson day for little girl, so time’s a-wasting.

Quick round up of the tabs I need to clear … an article from NZ’s Stuff website about the Modern Learning Experiment. I’m far from convinced, especially about the “screens for all!” attitude of it all. A couple more things about schools: this from Sir Ken Robinson (oh, hell yes! Dance is as important as mathematics!) and I would also like to share a quote that has been rocking my world:

“We’ve bought into the idea that education is about training and “success”, defined monetarily, rather than learning to think critically and to challenge. We should not forget that the true purpose of education is to make minds, not careers. A culture that does not grasp the vital interplay between morality and power, which mistakes management techniques for wisdom, which fails to understand that the measure of a civilization is its compassion, not its speed or ability to consume, condemns itself to death.”

― Chris Hedges, Empire of Illusion: The End of Literacy and the Triumph of Spectacle

LOVE THAT.

For no good reason, read about an inspiring, alternative method of farming, here. Here is a gorgeous blog post about childrens’ spontaneous singing , and finally, an article from Mothering magazine, about missing your mother. I posted a comment at the end of the piece which I’m kinda disappointed the author hasn’t acknowledged. Maybe she doesn’t know how to. I will keep a compassionate heart. But only just.

becoming my own wife

Posted on April 12, 2018 by Miriam McCaleb

Kia Ora my lovelies,

This beautiful picture accompanies an article I wrote for the fine folk at Family Times magazine. The article can be found here, I hope you will enjoy it.

It’s very, very cold in NZ this week. Autumn just decided to be Winter, for a few days. We have had snow, sleet and gales and we’ve all busted out our puffy jackets. At my house, I’ve relocated my laptop from my office (separate building, poorly insulated and fairly freezing) to the main abode. Here I can keep a potbelly stove alight in the kitchen, and just now I lit the main firebox in the living room as well. I know! Bad ass!

I do this despite knowing I have electric forms of heat available, but my rural setting gives me permission to burn wood freely, and my state of self-wifing means I delight in performing these loving acts of care and nurture. When I gather yet another heavy basket full of firewood, I do it as an act of love. When I empty ashes a la Cinderella, it is as a gift to my future self. As I vaccuum the inevitable trail of wood bits and sawdust, it is because I recognise my own right to pass the evening without crap stuck to my socks.

For weeks (years!) I have been grousing about my lack of a wife, (I know, greedy … because I want to keep my husband …) and sometimes I’m fairly jealous of my husband, because he has one. So I’ve decided to imagine that I am my own wife. In contrast to lots of the thinking I usually do about Self (or lack thereof!) I am mucking around with the notion of compartmentalising my time – here I am at my desk, researching and writing. Here I am folding a load of towels just so, so desk-self doesn’t have to worry about that domestic task. Worker me, wifely me. Both equally valuable.

Righty ho … I will now do the baby geek thang, and that is to share a variety of interesting links with you.

First, a news report about some important research highlighting the way that parental distraction by cell phones interrupts a child’s language learning abilities. YIKES. Tech is a risk to children in other ways, tooski, like YouTube stealing childrens’ data. Classy.

Next, a TED talk about neuroplasticity, and LOOK! The Royal Children’s Hospital in Melbourne has issued another of their excellent Policy Briefs, this one about the first 1000 days of a child’s life.

Now an article from Scientific American, about being a scientist and a mother at the same time (I know, radical!) and that led to this piece by the same author about conferences and provision for breastfeeding mothers.

Here is a blog post advocating for sane social media policy in schools … love it. I want to quote a paragraph from this and ask you to substitute”Social media”, “Facebook” and “tweet” in the following with “SeeSaw”, which is an app showing up in schools and EC centres in NZ. I’m not a fan. (I’m also not a fan of an education strategy which aims to put digital devices in the hands of all 6 year olds, but I’ll save that convo for another day).

Here goes:

Finally, when teachers or administrators are using social media in the classroom or at school activities, it models the addictive, life-negating behavior that we don’t want our kids to emulate. If teachers are looking for social media opportunities during the school day, then they are being distracted from the face-to-face, in-person contact that defines classroom education. Taking a selfie with a student, however well-meaning, conveys that the moment is less significant than the Tweet. Sad. I want my kid to feel that what she’s accomplished in class matters in its own right, even if it is not posted to Facebook!

I know plenty of y’all are keen on SeeSaw, and will disagree with me, and that’s OK … let’s discuss.

new year, new links

Posted on January 14, 2018 by Miriam McCaleb

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Highlight of the summer thus far: giant bubbles. (thanks, Bubbleon)

Sisters! Brothers! Geeks of all breadths and hues … welcome.

This geek has been attempting something akin to a holiday … a staycation, in the modern vernacular. I’d like to pretend it’s been all drinks-with-umbrellas and joyful laughter, but the truth is much crunchier than that. I’d love to be a fly on the wall of other homes, to see what happens when nobody’s watching. Are other mothers as grouchy as I? Do other husbands retreat to their devices as quickly as mine? Are other 5 year olds as swift to dissolve into rage as my daughter is? And what of the other teens? Are their eyerolls as accomplished?

I do believe that it’s too easy for us to imagine the best of others and the worst of ourselves, when the more useful thing would be to offer the same compassion to ourselves (and our spouses, our children, heck … even our slow-to-mature potato plants!) that we routinely offer to others.

You know what helps me? Yoga. January means 30 days of yoga with Adriene. I’ve done 3 of these challenges before, and they are DIVINE. This year is no exception. Check ‘er out here. LOVE YOU, ADRIENE kiss kiss x x x I’m up to day 12 and finding such joy.

Anyway, alongside my attempts at holidaying, the year thus far has been a time to work on getting ducks in a row for the new year. I have study in my future, research to do, issues that I’d like to sit and stare at. I need to think deeply for weeks at a time. The trickiness emerges when us mamas have hopes for our lives beyond parenting (be it work, advocacy, study, training of one kind or another) and then parenting rises up – daily, repeatedly, at least a half dozen times already during this itty bitty post.

The constancy of interruption in my life is one of the consistencies thereof. Irony! Hi! How’s it going?

And listen: the fight for our own attention is one of the reasons I continue to oxygenate the battle against the dominance of the screens, especially with regards to our kids. Please: behold this webinar “Screen Time & Family Relationships“, brought to you by the Children’s Screen Time Action Network, and starring Dr. Richard Freed. I watched it live (ok, I put some laundry away as well …I’m still working to break the multitasking habit, oK?) but watch it NOW! And join the Network, it’s free.

Other links, then I’m off down the river with my peeps.

The same beautiful peeps who challenge and berate and INTERRUPT me. I will try to find something new in each of them, today. Esther Perel would insist!

This is from Zero to Three, and it’s some sobering data about how little most people report to know about early brain development. Still got work to do, homies. Speaking of work to do, this is one take on the early childhood education scene in NZ at the mo. Factory Farms. Sigh.

Here is a link from Mothering, describing Pope Francis and his healthy attitude to breastfeeding. And this is a link to an article I wrote for OHbaby! a while back. Did I tell yiz about the most recent issue and the work I did in there? Might have to share that laters. That is a special magazine, y’know. The calibre of editors is second to none!

As we put the final shovels of earth onto the grave of 2017, I must acknowledge the beauty of this writing by Emily Writes for the Spinoff (so good) on the subject of parenting at Christmas time. I tried to create a similar type of comradery the previous Christmas, just with different words y’know. And as January chugs along, I once again wish to raise a toast to the kin keepers, because we are sorting school uniforms, assessing the state of the 1B4’s (how many can be reused? How many must be bought?) and sniffing lunchboxes. Repairing zips on backpacks, stocking up on socks. Unseen. Undervalued.

Is it any wonder we can get a bit worn down and cynical, hmmm?

If you ain’t feeling the new year, check out these 5 ways to get motivated. If you can muster the enthusiasm to click the link, that is.

Waiau, Lincoln, and in between

Posted on March 20, 2017 by Miriam McCaleb

If I were a cleverer geek I’d be able to insert a nice graphic from Saturday’s ECE Expo. Alas, I am supremely human (ie: flawed as can be!) so I’ll ask you to just tolerate one of the ultra uncool, non-web-wonderful posts that are my default setting.

What a time it’s been. I never reported back on the excellence of a visit to Waiau with the glorious Dr. Jackie and the extraordinary Steph from the Brainwave Trust Aotearoa. What an amazing opportunity to connect with a warm, authentic, courageous group of families. I honour the whole darned lot of yiz.

And this weekend was also an utter treat: Libby and her crew organised a professional and enriching day and I greatly cherished being able to present. The folks in my session were open and engaged and willing … we had some fun, eh?

If you’d like to hear more from Dr. Perry and his profoundly transformative recipe: “Regulate, Relate, Reason”, check out this link, which includes a podcast. Listen while you prep dinner!

And here is a link to the Buddhify app, which is just one of a quadrillion breath/meditation type helpers. I adore it. And give Adriene’s “Yoga Quickies” a try, for if you’ve just got a few minutes and need a reboot. Love her! Amazing!

(*btw two things I should have referenced on the day: the line “set yourself up for greatness” is one of Adriene’s, and the Imaginary Extra Day activity was inspired by a book called “The Gift of Play: Why Adult Women Stop Playing and How to Start Again”, by author Barbara Brannen. )

Also I referred to the awesomeness of Dr. Rick Hanson, you can find more about him here. I enjoy all of his writing, including his weekly newsletters, and I subscribe to his podcast, too. Check out Episode 4 for more of that “noticing that you are already oK” practice. SO YUMMY AND WISE.

In other news, a couple here from Scientific American, first a graphic look at the impact of poverty on the brain (ugh) and this article expands the ideas represented in the first.

Another one from the “What the HECK?” file, this is a piece from Harvard Medical School about the far reaching benefits and implications of supporting breastfeeding. American data, but interesting nonetheless.

This episode of the podcast ‘On Being’ blew my mind, and now I’m going to have to check out more from Anil Dash, because he might be the hope for a generation. The latest episode of On Being has an interview with Bessel Van der Kolk, he of the Body Keeps the Score. Y’know, I keep trying to get everyone to read it! Can’t wait to listen to that one.

Another podcast in my queue, recommended by one of my favourite gals, and from one of my favourite ‘casts! This looks awesome, from Radiolab.

Oh, and did I share this yet? It’s about parenting teens. Love them! Trust them! Cuddle their big bodies whenever they let you!

I haven’t time for much else this morning. But look after yourself, please. And look after your people. And look after our beautiful land that we love as much as we love our people!

Playcentre, baby

Posted on September 14, 2016 by Miriam McCaleb

Kia Ora Geeks, what’s up? So Little Girl and I started our week with a beautiful visit to the Playcentre in Leithfield. I wanted to follow up with a few links from our conversation there.

First: May I say how much I love Playcentre as a movement, a philosophy, and a thing in general. It’s uniquely kiwi, supportive of families (therefore is grounded in Bioecological theories of human development, whoop whoop!) and it is a monument to play. And play rules. That’s that. As I told the lovely Kate, who is writing about the morning for a Playcentre publication, being in a Playcentre makes me proud to be a New Zealander.

I also happen to adore Kay Henson, who runs that Monday morning session at Leithfield Playcentre. What a lucky little village. And what lovely, devoted mamas all hanging out that day. I am grateful to have spent some time with you all.

I see the way you attend so patiently, selflessly, (exhaustedly!) to your settled, loved, inquisitive children. I see you.

Some of the things I wanted to follow up:

This is a good intro to temperament theory, and, to follow on, here is an article about the concept of Goodness of Fit. And this article does a lovely job of explaining Self Regulation and highlights the link between it and Goodness of Fit. Good times!

An extension of our temperament conversation led us into talking about Elaine Aron and her Highly Sensitive Person work. Check out more here.

A couple of musical links now: first with regards to behaviour. This is Accentuate the Positive, which is more than just a classic tune. It’s also a great strategy for dealing with our families. It’s a behaviour management anthem, about choosing your battles, and celebrating the bits that are going well!

The next musical link is a live version of Dixie Chicken by Little Feat, from the year of our Lord, 1977. It’s for Dixie and her mama.

What else? Here is a link to learn more about Madga Gerber, this is a book I highly recommend, this is one of the Buddhist inspired parenting books I wouldn’t live without (I chatted with one mama about this), and won’t you please have a peruse of my writing page for many expansions of some of the topics we discussed.

Finally, this is a random and cool link from Mothering mag about baby birds and the power of song … ooooh.

Speaking of birds, I’m off to give my poorly chook a spa treatment. I wish I was kidding.

benefits of bailing

Posted on March 17, 2016 by Miriam McCaleb

Kia Ora geeks! Here is the latest issue from our friends at OHbaby! I am proud of the piece I wrote in there, about quitting, and I enjoyed many other gems, tooski.

Speaking of OHbaby!, I wrote an article for the Winter 2014 issue, about maternal anger. Just last week, one of the mamas I interviewed at the time sent me this article from the Guardian, about expressing emotions around children. She reckons we were ahead of the curve. How exciting, for a reclusive hermit anti-fashionista!

Now let me share these great many links with y’all. From the Campaign for a Commercial Free Childhood, this is a fab resource promising real-life strategies for reducing screen time. Next, because who doesn’t love a good infographic, this is a resource from Zero to Three summarising the impact of poverty on early child development.

And from the Child Trauma Academy (I promise not to use the word ‘resource’ again …) is this excellent slide series/video about … well, child trauma. Similarly awesome is this report from the Berry Street whānau in Australia. They do amazing work for children and families and they call on the CTA wisdom to do so.

Also from Australia: this news report about a Mother’s milk bank, and this from Scientific American will tell you what wee babies can see that we no longer can. Also from Scientific American: this article describes how the wiring of your brain reveals the real you.

Some research and a grunty report now … Here is some open access research about how Mindful Parenting lowers stress in children (frankly I should flippin well hope so!!), while this research identifies types of humour exhibited by children, and links them to resilience. This report from the USA examines what investments are needed to get kids ready for school.

Finally, this from the Independent newspaper tells us what parenting techniques have been used by parents of successful children (*would love to see a definition of what ‘successful’ means) and BOY OH BOY would I love to do some shopping at Kanikani Kids. Tino ataahua enei!

Work, play. Link.

Posted on March 1, 2016 by Miriam McCaleb

Here my Little Girl is at kindergarten. I know, I’m dorky about protecting her image. Praps she’ll thank me later. I love this picture for the pure demonstration of how her play is her work. If you’re lucky, you’ll also find yourself mixing together a nice wee melange of work and play.

My life is nicely like that. Work, play. Work = play. Play = work. Work = work. Play = play. Repeat.

Now it’s time for some links. Some interesting, juicy links. First up, a fantastic blog that my mama mate shared with me. Welcome to the Queens of Constance. I am awed by this … so brave, honest, important. My eyes get a bit bruised by loose spelling and unorthodox grammar (I’m kinda an apostrophe nerd) but I forgive. It’s a glorious site. Enjoy.

Next, if you have a little time up your sleeve, check out this sensational series about the brain, from PBS in the USA. What a world we live in … you can just look stuff up! Any time! I remember the 1980’s, when to re-view a clip from telly you had to write in to the special Sunday night clip show, and if you were really lucky they’d play it one more time.

Nice summary of babies’ learning here, from the Mental Floss website (*albeit a dorkily named article) and check out this meta analysis from the Robert Wood Johnson foundation about what children’s social competence means throughout their lifespan.

Here is an article about making childrearing less expensive, and this a li’l something about the happiest/least happy places for children. Apparently incomplete data, though.

Here is a piece from Mothering, showing how one legislator from Mississippi wishes to use the law to protect the rights of breastfeeders (and breastfeedees)

Take care out there. Arohanui xx

american football v. cricket

Posted on February 8, 2016 by Miriam McCaleb

Mine is a household populated by NZ born and US born people. Usually it’s harmonious, but today we have the Superbowl being broadcast at the same time as the Black Caps vs. Australia. There is a small degree of discontent!

The ways we express our culture are many, are they not?

Anyway, I’d consider watching nothing at all, in the hope that I’d get a wee bit bored. Because boredom is splendid – here is a l’il something from Scientific American to that effect. Ah, and if you get truly, magnificently bored, you may get to have a wee sleep. And there isn’t much more awesome than sleep.

I’d also love to share this link to a yummy write up about life in a responsive classroom. Gotta love it! And please forgive the facebook-y nature of this link, but it’s dreamy. About healthy body image talk and motherhood.

Speaking of healthy body images and motherhood – have you seen this? The magnificence of breastfeeding on Sesame Street? Dig! You know what else I dig? Yoga practice.

Right. My three year old is in danger of becoming v unpopular with the TV watching men. There is nothing developmentally unreasonable about HER behaviour …!

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