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giving it another go

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Kia ora friends

I had reason to believe I might be able to post and link … let’s see. I’ll start in a controversial manner, by sneaking you all behind the paywall at The Press in order to read this EXCELLENT opinion piece by Flip Grater. It’s about seeking a world that prioritises child safety and I say YES. Let’s. If a matriarchy is what it takes, then so be it.

Locals in North Canterbury might oughta know about this youth survey being run by the Waimakariri District Council, and if you’re feeling a bit more globally minded this week, you’d better be planning to go to a big ol’ conference or two … I’m considering the World Association for Infant Mental Health or maybe the International Play Association. Then again, I do really love staying home! Speaking of Play … I wrote this years ago, for OHbaby!. Enjoy.

Here is an excellent review about active outdoor play (spoiler: it’s awesome for folk of all ages!) and please enjoy this excellent interview with Margot Denomme, who speaks sanely about tech use in families, out of Canada (*see previous point about benefits of outdoor play!). Oh, hey: check out this study and see if it doesn’t make you want to switch off your smartphone’s internet capability.

This is an explainer about the grossness of Grok (my title, not theirs), from our Classification office, and LORD HAVE MERCY if you can, get to The Reality of Everything symposium (in Wellington, in June). I wonder if they know about the reality of childrearing at the mo? As exhibit A, may I share this piece from the Times in the UK, or maybe you’d like to peruse the excellent work of Health Professionals for Safer Screens, and for a New Zealand specific vantage point; please consider this piece I wrote for the journal Perspectives of Infant Mental Health, or this wonderful work with data from the Growing Up in NZ study.

I’m a bit giddy, cos I think that maybe JUST MAYBE the links are working and I am back in the saddle! Giddy and giddy up! All at once!

yeehah. see y’all soon xx

sick days, a little craze(d)

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Kia ora friends,

Little Girl is still unwell – it’s day nine (?)… meanwhile, f you could see the number of open tabs that are squashed along the top of this screen, you would be worried for my state of mind. Rightly so.

There are several I’ll be able to put away if I first share them, here. I cannot promise to organise them thematically, which is what I’d usually do. My mind and laptop are in such a topsy turvy jumble that imma lay things on you in a flurry of no particular order … GIDDY UP

THIS is an alert from Zero to Three, about the US Surgeon General warning about how stressed out babies’ parents are. Knowing, as we do, how interrelated parental wellbeing is with the positive developmental trajectories of dem babies … this is a serious call for attention from the highest of offices in US Health. … … annnnnnd I bet it goes nowhere, cos this happens all the time.

Babies: ignored.

Now, come have a look at these cool music games (thanks Julie, thanks Music Lab!) and if you roam around that site a bit, you can see research opportunities for the nerdily inclined (my people. I see you.) THIS is a well-worth-reading article from Harvard Magazine about computers and humanity, written by someone with 60 years’ experience. And LOOK! At the website of the wonderful Durable Human whānau (kia ora Jenifer!) here is a link of useful references about children and tech.

Now, from MIT press, here is an excellent piece by Jenny Radesky, who is one of the most important voices in the realm of infants and technology. Child-centred solutions. Let’s Go!! Here are some inspiring examples of advocacy and education courtesy of Warm Cookies of the Revolution and I am looking forward to watching this presentation from Julie Cullen @ Sensible Screen Use, about screens in the ECE setting (another issue very dear to my heart!).

This is an important article about Consuming Less, and consuming better, and here is another excellent presentation you can watch, by Catherine Price (How to Break up with Your Phone and the book about Fun whose proper name temporarily escapes me). It’s a tech talk, and a good one.
Oh, and when’s the last time I shared a link to this excellent Position Paper about prematurity in Aotearoa? It’s co-authored by my friend & mentor, Dr. Champion.

HEY check THIS out … research describing the link between two of my favourite things to bang on about … the Evolved Developmental Niche and Vagal regulation! LOVE! And here, from the Atlantic, a piece about adolescents and phones (by Jonathan Haidt, he who wrote the Anxious Generation. In fact, this may be an excerpt. I don’t know for sure). This is a link to a radio interview on RNZ a while back, with the ‘godfather of AI’ Geoffrey Hinton fearing it’s become too powerful (no shit, Sherlock).

Speaking of AI: mate I LOVED this episode of your Undivided Attention, with the gorgeous Esther Perel. She’s describing ‘the other AI’ = artificial intimacy. OUCH. I listened to it with my infant advocate brain (of course) and LAWD I have thoughts and feelings. Here is a piece from Education Week about young readers (tip: screens down. Real play. Go outside. Hold a book.) and this link will tell you all about a film to share and break your heart! KIds on Tech – prepare and protect!

Here’s a piece I wrote about tech, ages ago, here is a depressing report about the sexualisation of girls, and this depressing article is about technoauthoritarianism. Hey, let’s keep the bummers and downers just rolling along! This article is about how adolescent females who search for academic support online wind up with diminished mental health (what the WHAT?)

Here is the School of Radical Attention, the work of Richard Louv (Yes! Vitamin N = Nature!) and here are a slew of wonderful resources about the transition from growth to degrowth, from Mother Pelican.

This is a piece to remind us that school readiness begins in infancy, and I think this is kinda hilarious, from McSweeneys, for anyone who has ever dined out with children!

Here’s some bits from Harvard about the vital force that is water, and what it means to children. So … yeah … join the resistance and help us save our river!

Finally -listen: You are beautiful.

in the news

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Kia ora friends,

Yesterday, the news was full of this story, concerned about the oral language skills of children arriving in New Zealand’s schools, aged five. Later in the day, speech language therapists joined in, confirming how worrying kids’ language is, and adding their own workforce shortages to the list of challenges.

The person interviewed on RNZ laid the blame at the feet of the pandemic and children’s screen time. Salient points, but no mention made of parents’ own screen use, yet again, despite it being associated with language learning, a reliable predictor of children’s habits and a factor measurably influencing maternal sensitivity & responsiveness. Oh, and maternal sensitivity has been shown to predict a secure attachment, which influences almost everything. Forever.

Parents need support, especially at the transition to parenthood. So many of them are feeling unsupported – my doctoral research has confirmed this to a heartbreaking extent. And as for the screen stuff, we all need more green time, less screen time, and new parents in particular are being set adrift in risky online spaces. Once I get that thesis online, you can have a look at how my research also highlights a real silence from the perinatal workforce about how to manage (in particular) smartphone use during caregiving. Without attention to this issue, there will continue to be children lacking the expected skills to thrive in the formal learning of primary school – no pandemic to blame.

This government’s response, which seems to universally involve throwing more testing at children, fails to address the foundational needs of families, and the neurobiological reality of infants requiring attuned, unhurried care in order to grow into the sort of five year olds who can rock up to school, full of chat and ready to learn.

(*PS I love this quote from a teacher at my local school in response to increased testing … oh, the school is rural, hence the farming metaphor: “Just because you weigh a pig more often, it doesn’t make the pig grow any faster”.)

a lover, not a fighter

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Kia ora fam,

I really would like to be allowed to exist for love. Like Aurora.

My training and work and research and life all justify my long held pro-mama, pro-baby, pro-relationships stance.

Relationships and play, y’all. I live to fly the flag for these vital ingredients!

So it’s gutting that so much of my time and energy seem to be required in rebutting and fighting. Ugh, the negativity! But as you know, there’s a baddie trying to pollute our river. In fact, there are multiple short sighted folk seemingly happy to pollute all our waterways! Clean, green NZ? Nope.

Similarly, in my corner of the world (child development, family thriving, etc!) there is junk science published every day and questionable research underway all the time. If I allowed myself, I could stay in a constant state of defence, parrying and sparring from dawn till bedtime, just trying to uphold an infant’s rights.

It’s hard to wrap your arms around a person or a concept while holding a shield to ward off the threats to their wellbeing. But listen, some of what goes on is so very questionable, YOU GOTTA hold the shield. You gotta ask difficult questions.

Like this: how does the fact that babies enjoy one another’s company serve as a justification for guilt-free group care? I’m at a loss for how to parse the ludicrousness of this logic-leap, which is seemingly a cynical justification of an economic system which relies on paid childcare and requires developmentally vulnerable infants to bear the brunt. Sure, babies enjoy each other’s company, that’s cool! This is not surprising, given that we evolved to spend time in groups, and alloparents (ie adults who behave like parents in support of parents, like grandparents & aunties) are a vital part of a thriving community. HOWEVER, the fact that babies like other babies does not mean they are best served by the current dubious ratios, high staff turnover and excessive group sizes that are all too often found in the profit-driven world that early childhood education (childcare) has become.

Or this: the virtual baby at UC, which gives me indigestion. Just … why? Also: how expensive was it to develop this circus of infant disrespect? An infant sized doll would be a much better proxy. In the good old days of sane teacher training, we absolute beginners used to practice nappy changes on dolls, rehearsing respectful routines using lots of language and taking an unhurried approach … I saw that virtual baby in development and LORD I hope it has progressed further than the ghastly nightmare which I saw: a baby who could not respond to song, or touch, or gaze. The virtual baby could not be comforted by any of those biologically appropriate responses, but would only stop crying when laid on the ground and given a virtual rattle to play with. WHAT? And this would help train quality professionals …how? Just because something can be done (like a VR headset for teacher training!) does not mean it should be.

Even this: my latest article for my pals at OHbaby! magazine, which is a cautionary tale about baby tracking apps. Can we be FOR responding to babies’ cues? Not without defending against the latest threat to that, first! Gah!

We need some positivity to end this post, or we will all wind up with a bad case of the blues. OK, so … howzabout the Joy Workout from the NY Times? That’s fun.

And here’s some more fun, thank you Catherine Price. Here is a link to a cool group who are all about “Radical Attention”, here is inspiring (brief!) video about leadership, and this is a glorious collection of links … you will find art and beauty courtesy of the soon-to-cease-to-be Vampire’s Wife (covet! covet!).

What else? Some beautiful art by a talented woman from the San Francisco area named Shannon Knowlton, an excellent summary of recommendations for screen use in schools and ECE, and (from our friends in Ireland) a summary of screen use in children’s presence, more generally.

Speaking of summaries, I am in my office today to begin work on my research summary. I gotta transform a 350+ page document into a 1-2 page lay summary. Like an abstract, but nicer to read! This is not an easy task and I’ll admit to being a bit bamboozled by it.

But needs must, friends, so I will hop to it. Wishing you all blessings, love, joy – and the courage to question and defend, when required!

x x x

too little too late (too busy!!)

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Kia ora friends,

The busy is a bit much at the moment. In my life, the hurtling will be somewhat inevitable till we put the thesis to bed, in about 7-8 months. Hurtling. Data collection is complete, analyses mostly done and the descriptive chapter will burst into life in forthcoming weeks.

It’s a weird wee patch, where I’m having to pause and see it through, even as I can see what needs to happen next.

As ever, it’s hard to put my attention too squarely on the ol’ work during school holidays. The (not so) small person is now eleven, and I gotta keep finding ways to focus on her and be super productive in the moments that surround intentional interactions. That link is a funny gag, btw. I will be working my bum off at every available moment! It’s the only way!

Time is precious, we know that.

Time is the thing we can’t make more of. We can’t forget that.

And our kids are kids just the once! My firstborn will soon be twenty! When’s the last time i pushed her on a swing? But many of us are still on the phones more than we are with our children.While we’re thinking ’bout it, we could do a bit better at keeping phones away from children (babies!) too.

Can we agree that’s heartbreaking?

And sheesh, may I hold my hand to my heart and whisper sadly about the passing of a beautiful and beloved early childhood kaumatua, who I have acknowledged here in the old bloggity many times, and I’ve quoted her liberally in work for OHbaby! and others. Darlings, Pennie Brownlee has died. My go-to book for gifting to new parents has always been “Dance with me in the Heart” and many of you will also know “Magic spaces“, both of which were written by Pennie.

Yeah.

Exhale.

Life is short and precious and there is heaps to do.

The things which Pennie wrote so well about were the truly important bits that make child development magical and wonderful and make the most of the exuberant synaptogenesis of brain growth that rockets along in those early years.

Relationships. Play.

That’s it, y’all. that’s what makes children thrive.
and both those things are disrupted by by-God tech!

Anyway.

Walking in the woods is good for us, says Harvard, and this is the website of Diana Suskind, whose work I was reminded of by a lovely colleague last week. Cool rock play. Love. Here is a fab new post from our friends @ Sensible Screen Use, about the need to think more critically about our tech use in classrooms. OH! And ECE centres, brothers and sisters. It is most unsatisfactory what seems to be going on all over the show. May I remind us all that what’s ‘normal’ and what’s ‘healthy’ are not always the same thing!!

I’m doing that broken record thing again, so I’ll send so much love and go put a load of washing on. x x x

All Hail the Bold and brilliant Special Interest Group in Perinatal and Infant Mental Health of the Psychological Society of Ireland!!

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Honestly … the tenacity and ferocity of their advocacy meant that my work was featured in TWO national newspapers in Ireland – the Irish Times and the Irish Examiner … and I just did a radio interview for a nationwide station, TodayFM (although my voice held a nervous wobble, and apparently they don’t say “judder bar” in Ireland!)

I’m in Dublin because I’ve been attending & presenting at the 18th Congress for the World Association for Infant Mental Health. It’s been amazing, but I’m ready for my house, bed, cow, chickens and routines now, please.

Arohanui x x

June gloom, multiple rooms, and exciting zooms

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What a privilege to share a play with Otis and pals 🙂

Kia ora friends

When I lived in the USA, they used to talk about the weather in terms of June gloom, and I thought “not in North Canterbury, where the winter nights are frosty and the winter days are shiny”. But this last wee patch has been rather gloomy, so much so that I heard a gentleman say, at the recycling centre over the weekend: “this is like England in November!”.

The other reason for the gloom in my heart is a rough 1-2 combo of death-a-versary and new loss. Processing sadness even as trying to support others … not easy. But important stuff often isn’t.

Anyway, I need to do the important work of sharing links on this blog … I will start with a shout out to Canterbury Playcentre and their fine “Babies Can Play” project, which I was lucky enough to gatecrash a couple of weeks back, with my li’l buddy Otis (and thanks to his fam for allowing me to share the above pic).

That thought may segue nicely into sharing this paper, which was thrust into my hands by one of my mentors, and deals with infant voice and subjective experience. YES! Preach. Vital, and all too often absent from the research realm.

Some terrifying links, now – this is from the Guardian, it’s about the role of Instagram and Facebook in child trafficking. Gross. But don’t look away. Stare it down. Likewise, this from the New York Times about how chat rooms within gaming communities are breeding extremist (violent, racist, misogynist) thinkers, and over here is a piece about how You Tube algorithms are tilting gamers toward actual videos of real life shootings. Unacceptable.

Some good news – this from the Washington Post about banning use of phones in schools, this is a topic which has had a bit of attention here, lately, thanks to the work of Paddy Gower, and lest we forget we’ve known about the benefits of removing phones from school for ages – this write up from the Guardian is in response to a report from the London School of Economics from 2015, for flip’s sake. How many distracted children in those intervening years … hmmm?

Here is an English translation of a position paper written by the German Association for Infant Mental Health, it’s about things digital in the lives of babies & families, and this is a press release from Canterbury Uni (whoop, whoop!) about screen use in early childhood. Guess what? Limits are a good idea.

This is from Teen Vogue about the aftershocks for children who have grown up in the public eye in ‘influencer’ families (ew) and this is about legislation in France, designed to curb such weirdness.

Finally, a chuckle for the pottymouthed …thanks, McSweeneys x x

How can this possibly be my first link share of 2023?

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Well, crikey. Blame the workload (helloooooo data collection!), blame the family, heck – blame me if you like. It’s been a long-ass time since I posted, but the good news that accompanies this is that I have a backlog of fascination for you to peruse.

Are you sitting comfortably? Then let’s begin!

First, may I share this super practical piece from Oregon Public Broadcasting about supporting young people’s positive body image through purposeful use of … you got it … smartphones/screens. Because let’s face it – as those behind this lawsuit understand, social media messes with people’s minds, and especially the young fellas. In breaking and yet unsurprising news from Bloomberg, Zuckerberg had been warned about this very thing.

I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again – I volunteer to give that young man a crisp and hearty slap.

Here’s a smart essay about the creepiness of AI, and this is another smart essay, about attention.

I highly recommend this article from the Cut, about the trap that is inherent in giving a child their first phone, and LISTEN! How have we not been following the work of the Institute of Digital Media and Child Development? (Thanks to my colleague at Auckland Uni for the detective work).

Speaking of child development, here’s a wee piece I wrote for OHbaby! a while back, it’s about play and toys and it’s tech free (no surprises there). And here’s what Scientific American assert is the best way to soothe an infant. Hot tip: It has absolutely nothing to do with birthing in a full face of makeup. Ew.

This is an alarming description of the ways that TikTok tracks you across the web, and this is about an increasing number of schools and universities who are banning the platform from their campuses.

I love this, from the Washington Post, about making children peer reviewers for science writing, to ensure its digestibility, and this is pretty interesting … from Stuff, about the rise of for-profit childcare in NZ. Also ew.

Three quick links to end this … all more personal than I usually post here! This is a review to an amazing concert I was lucky enough to attend, here is a piece about George Michael and the injustices of “that” scandal (because I have loved him since I was a literal child) AND I’m super proud of my friends who hosted this gig. For flip’s sake, Tennessee. Stop reinforcing the stereotypes of small mindedness and redneckery, would ya please?

a blessed bee sting

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kia ora e te whānau

the other day I set off across the paddock in an open toed shoe – RECKLESS. I barely made it through the gate when OUCH I was stung. When sharing this story (my version was about pain, discomfort, self pity) one of the gorgeous women in my dance class saw this as a wonderful thing – the health of our bees is so important, and she hadn’t heard of anyone getting stung for ages. For her, this was evidence of bee-flourishing!

Speaking of flourishing – hurry, lovelies, and you can join this international online conference about human flourishing. YES, please.

Here is a timely reminder to all parents about letting children decide who to kiss & cuddle at holiday shindigs (thanks Mighty Girl!) and this is a resource to local families in the Chch NZ area… nature play, darlings!

A couple more links, then I might oughta get back to work. I’m organising my surveys so I can start recruitment as soon as my Chrissy hols are over!

Here’s a lil something from the New Yorker about algorithmic anxiety, and while we are at it … this piece asks why American teens are so sad and anxious. No prizes for guessing. This is the Guardian talking about the overexposure of kids to tech, and this article gives reason to pause when it comes to ‘sharenting‘.

Take care out there … life is busy and beautiful. xx

good and bad things

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One good thing is this latest issue of OHbaby! So nice. And within is an article I wrote about parenting styles. Enjoy …

Conversely …let’s just put it out there. On the record:
I FLIPPING HATE DAYLIGHT SAVING. There. Said it.

We just changed our clocks in NZ (“Spring Forward”) and this is faux time. I mean, all time is a bit faux. As my dear, late mama used to say “Time is a societal construct”. Clocks are only a thing cos we say so. And as for changing them, depriving whole communities of circadian goodness…? I’m agin it! NOT A FAN.

I mean – if this is about making those dreamy summer nights longer… guess WHAT! Mother Nature already does that! Our days get longer in summer without any need for tampering by silly people and their dumb timepieces. Even my delight with the “extra” hour of sleep when we ‘fall back’ and put our clocks back to normal time – it’s not worth the price of admission. This springtime grumpiness is REAL, and I blame Daylight Saving. HUMBUG!!!

Right. Rant over.

Now for some links for my geeky brothers’n’sisters! After all, that’s what we do, here 🙂

First up, here is an academic paper which describes a study using the Still Face Paradigm as a mechanism for understanding the impact of technological interruption on mother-baby interaction.

Also tech-related: here is a piece from the Conversation about toddlers’ use of touchscreen technology (*hot tip: use in emergencies only! eg on aeroplanes, or while a parent is receiving medical care!) and this is from the Washington Post, about making a media plan for your family. Bloody good idea, and the basis of my PhD research… what, WHAT?

I’ve been reading/hearing/thinking a lot about TikTok, lately. She’s not your friend, y’all. Here is a piece which highlights the advocacy of Fairplay (formerly the Campaign for a Commercial Free Childhood. Loved them then, love them still!!) and YOU GOTTA hear this podcast from our pals at the Center for Humane Tech. It casts a calm and concerned eye over the platform. It’s not all cute dance moves, my darlings. Our poor young people need protection from data harvesting and capitalism, itself!

Another piece from the Conversation, now: about phones in schools (*I know – let’s just DON’T!) and just cos it’s fascinating – enjoy this cognitive biases cheat sheet.

Finally, please enjoy this piece of relatable satire from McSweeney’s, and some exceptionally beautiful Land Art. Let those beautiful images hold you till the pain goes away!