{"id":806,"date":"2020-08-10T20:02:08","date_gmt":"2020-08-10T08:02:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/baby.geek.nz\/?p=806"},"modified":"2020-08-11T15:30:31","modified_gmt":"2020-08-11T03:30:31","slug":"we-can-do-hard-things","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/baby.geek.nz\/?p=806","title":{"rendered":"we can do hard things"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Kia Ora ladies and gentlegeeks,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>August already. The almond tree outside my office is in bloom already, and I relish standing underneath and basking in the buzzing. I reckon that I have buzzed out about that very phenomenon on this very blog, on previous years. Consistent, or boring?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s nice to count the good bits, eh. The bad bits clamour for attention and our poor little prehistoric brains can struggle to deal with the slow burning dread of our multiple crises: global pandemic, voracious inequalities, heating planet &#8211; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mentalfloss.com\/article\/58230\/how-tell-whether-youve-got-angst-ennui-or-weltschmerz\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">our stress response systems weren&#8217;t made for this shizz<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The hard things I&#8217;m referring to do include living in the shadows of those aforementioned disasters, but hard things extend even beyond those. My li&#8217;l girl is away on her first school camp &#8211; we talked about how &#8216;excited&#8217; and &#8216;nervous&#8217; can feel like they sit side by side in our bodies. We are both excited by the temporary respite from some of our routines, and we have both been nervous about being separated. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Did you<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nature.com\/articles\/d41586-020-02176-w\" target=\"_blank\"> hear about the downturn in premature births during the pandemic?<\/a> Pretty wild! And it shouldn&#8217;t surprise us that<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2020\/07\/21\/parenting\/imaginative-play-kids-quarantine.html?eType=EmailBlastContent&amp;eId=10ce6ccb-72b6-496c-be0a-81469c5d1b02\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> children are making sense of the COVID via play<\/a> &#8211; cos that&#8217;s how kids make sense of the world. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Multitudes of tech related links &#8230; cos &#8230; y&#8217;know. This one is about the way <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/hechingerreport.org\/opinion-hey-parents-are-you-mindlessly-scrolling-if-so-its-likely-your-kids-are-too\/?eType=EmailBlastContent&amp;eId=10ce6ccb-72b6-496c-be0a-81469c5d1b02\" target=\"_blank\">kids&#8217; tech habits mimic their parents&#8217;<\/a> (see &#8230; they get it &#8220;protect developing brains&#8221;.  YES. (I do love the <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/hechingerreport.org\/\" target=\"_blank\">Hechinger report&#8230; check it out,<\/a> it&#8217;s all about reducing inequalities in education) and if you don&#8217;t protect those li&#8217;l brains, they&#8217;ll fail to direct small bodies to adequately move. I&#8217;m talking about <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.studyfinds.org\/more-screen-time-less-activity\/\" target=\"_blank\">inactive toddlers.<\/a> C&#8217;mon! Toddlers are designed to be active. It&#8217;s right there in their name! They toddle!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>now check out <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.indiatoday.in\/mail-today\/story\/coronavirus-screen-time-learning-e-class-overdose-is-hurting-kids-1702322-2020-07-20?eType=EmailBlastContent&amp;eId=10ce6ccb-72b6-496c-be0a-81469c5d1b02\" target=\"_blank\">this news item from India<\/a>, sharing their struggles with excessive screen time at the moment.<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/with-kids-spending-more-waking-hours-on-screens-than-ever-heres-what-parents-need-to-worry-about-141261\" target=\"_blank\">This is a piece from The Conversation in Australia<\/a> about similar concerns.Jeez, whaddya do? Go to school too soon and risk COVID or succumb to online school and wind up depressed and cross eyed?  Oh, for real, I offer my thoughts and angst to all the teachers in the USA &#8230; <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mcsweeneys.net\/articles\/sharpies\" target=\"_blank\">here is a tragically sad piece written by a teacher and published by McSweeneys<\/a>. Speaking of school &#8211; in unrelated news, here is a piece how about how <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.usnews.com\/news\/articles\/2016-06-22\/boys-bear-the-brunt-of-school-discipline\" target=\"_blank\">boys bear the brunt of school discipline<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let&#8217;s be as informed as we can manage, lovelies. <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.commonsensemedia.org\/research\/tweens-teens-tech-and-mental-health?j=7906730&amp;sfmc_sub=167714357&amp;l=2048712_HTML&amp;u=150395073&amp;mid=6409703&amp;jb=130&amp;utm_source=org_cwcs_livestream_20200729&amp;utm_medium=email\" target=\"_blank\">Try this piece from Common Sense Media about Tweens, Teens, Tech and Mental Health <\/a>&#8230; worth a look &#8230; and HOLY DING DONG <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.rickhanson.net\/being-well-podcast-polyvagal-theory-with-stephen-porges\/\" target=\"_blank\">listen to this episode of the Being Well podcast: an interview with Stephen Porges<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Look for the Helpers &#8211; here is a strong piece of work by ARACY &#8211; <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.aracy.org.au\/documents\/item\/667\" target=\"_blank\">the Australian Research Alliance for Children and Youth<\/a> &#8211; it&#8217;s about Building Children&#8217;s Potential. Here&#8217;s <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.rickhanson.net\/10-reasons-take-good-care-mother\/\" target=\"_blank\">a bit by our man Rick Hanson about looking after mothers <\/a>(or, as I like to yell at my family, periodically: &#8220;MUMS RULE!&#8221;) <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mcsweeneys.net\/articles\/my-toddler-emails-a-complaint-to-customer-service\" target=\"_blank\">THIS<\/a> is a funny bit of satire from McSweeneys,<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.littleyellowbird.co.nz\/collections\/masks\" target=\"_blank\"> here is a link to some kiwi made masks<\/a>, and <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2019\/10\/23\/13-learnings-13-years\/\" target=\"_blank\">here is a collection of lessons from the great Brain Pickings<\/a>. ENJOY x x x <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>PS: shout out to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.penguin.co.nz\/books\/untamed-9781785043352\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Glennon Doyle, whose book Untamed<\/a> brought &#8220;you can do hard things&#8221; into lovely, crispy focus x x x <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kia Ora ladies and gentlegeeks, August already. The almond tree outside my office is in bloom already, and I relish standing underneath and basking in the buzzing. 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