{"id":608,"date":"2018-04-12T11:10:47","date_gmt":"2018-04-11T23:10:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/baby.geek.nz\/?p=608"},"modified":"2018-04-12T11:10:47","modified_gmt":"2018-04-11T23:10:47","slug":"becoming-my-own-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/baby.geek.nz\/?p=608","title":{"rendered":"becoming my own wife"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-4048\" alt=\"\" src=\"http:\/\/www.familytimes.co.nz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/iStock-636828444-1.jpg\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.familytimes.co.nz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/iStock-636828444-1.jpg 800w, http:\/\/www.familytimes.co.nz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/iStock-636828444-1-300x188.jpg 300w, http:\/\/www.familytimes.co.nz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/iStock-636828444-1-768x480.jpg 768w, http:\/\/www.familytimes.co.nz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/iStock-636828444-1-600x375.jpg 600w\" width=\"800\" height=\"500\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Kia Ora my lovelies,<\/p>\n<p>This beautiful picture accompanies an article I wrote for the fine folk at Family Times magazine.\u00a0 <a href=\"http:\/\/www.familytimes.co.nz\/sensing-baby\/\">The article can be found here<\/a>, I hope you will enjoy it.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s very, very cold in NZ this week.\u00a0 Autumn just decided to be Winter, for a few days.\u00a0 We have had snow, sleet and gales and we&#8217;ve all busted out our puffy jackets.\u00a0 At my house, I&#8217;ve relocated my laptop from my office (separate building, poorly insulated and fairly freezing) to the main abode.\u00a0 Here I can keep a potbelly stove alight in the kitchen, and just now I lit the main firebox in the living room as well.\u00a0 I know!\u00a0 Bad ass!<\/p>\n<p>I do this despite knowing I have electric forms of heat available, but my rural setting gives me permission to burn wood freely, and my state of self-wifing means I delight in performing these loving acts of care and nurture.\u00a0 When I gather yet another heavy basket full of firewood, I do it as an act of love.\u00a0 When I empty ashes a la Cinderella, it is as a gift to my future self.\u00a0 As I vaccuum the inevitable trail of wood bits and sawdust, it is because I recognise my own right to pass the evening without crap stuck to my socks.<\/p>\n<p>For weeks (years!) I have been grousing about my lack of a wife, (I know, greedy &#8230; because I want to keep my husband &#8230;) and sometimes I&#8217;m fairly jealous of my husband, because he has one.\u00a0 So I&#8217;ve decided to imagine that I am my own wife.\u00a0 In contrast to lots of the thinking I usually do about Self (or lack thereof!)\u00a0 I am mucking around with the notion of compartmentalising my time &#8211; here I am at my desk, researching and writing.\u00a0 Here I am folding a load of towels just so, so desk-self doesn&#8217;t have to worry about that domestic task.\u00a0 Worker me, wifely me.\u00a0 Both equally valuable.<\/p>\n<p>Righty ho &#8230; I will now do the baby geek thang, and that is to share a variety of interesting links with you.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.heraldtribune.com\/news\/20180325\/parent-distraction-can-hinder-babies-language-skills\">First, a news report about some important research<\/a> highlighting the way that parental distraction by cell phones interrupts a child&#8217;s language learning abilities.\u00a0 YIKES.\u00a0 \u00a0Tech is a risk to children in other ways, tooski, like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/technology\/2018\/apr\/09\/youtube-illegally-collects-data-on-children-say-child-protection-groups?eType=EmailBlastContent&amp;eId=65b4d4b8-14c7-4fbb-9de8-1bc5a29540f5\">YouTube stealing childrens&#8217; data<\/a>.\u00a0 Classy.<\/p>\n<p>Next, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=LNHBMFCzznE&amp;sns=em\">a TED talk about neuroplasticity<\/a>, and LOOK!\u00a0 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.rch.org.au\/ccch\/publications-resources\/policy-brief\/#edition-no-28-march-2018\">The Royal Children&#8217;s Hospital in Melbourne has issued another of their excellent Policy Briefs<\/a>, this one about the first 1000 days of a child&#8217;s life.<\/p>\n<p>Now<a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.scientificamerican.com\/voices\/the-special-challenges-of-being-both-a-scientist-and-a-mom\/?utm_source=newsletter&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_campaign=weekly-review&amp;utm_content=link&amp;utm_term=2018-04-04_top-stories\"> an article from Scientific American, about being a scientist and a mother <\/a>\u00a0at the same time (I know, radical!) and that led to this piece by the same author about <a href=\"http:\/\/science.sciencemag.org\/content\/359\/6377\/838\">conferences and provision for breastfeeding mothers<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/dianeravitch.net\/2018\/02\/27\/douglas-rushkoff-a-sane-social-media-policy-for-americas-classrooms\/\">Here is a blog post advocating for sane social media policy in schools<\/a> &#8230; love it.\u00a0 I want to quote a paragraph from this and ask you to substitute&#8221;Social media&#8221;, &#8220;Facebook&#8221; and &#8220;tweet&#8221; in the following with <a href=\"https:\/\/web.seesaw.me\/\">&#8220;SeeSaw&#8221;<\/a>, which is an app showing up in schools and EC centres in NZ.\u00a0 I&#8217;m not a fan.\u00a0 (I&#8217;m also not a fan of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.beehive.govt.nz\/release\/helping-our-kids-develop-skills-be-digital-thinkers-and-creators\">an education strategy which aims to put digital devices in the hands of all 6 year olds<\/a>, but I&#8217;ll save that convo for another day).<\/p>\n<p>Here goes:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em>Finally, when teachers or administrators are using social media in the classroom or at school activities, it models the addictive, life-negating behavior that we don\u2019t want our kids to emulate. If teachers are looking for social media opportunities during the school day, then they are being distracted from the face-to-face, in-person contact that defines classroom education. Taking a selfie with a student, however well-meaning, conveys that the moment is less significant than the Tweet. Sad. I want my kid to feel that what she\u2019s accomplished in class matters in its own right, even if it is not posted to Facebook!<\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">I know plenty of y&#8217;all are keen on SeeSaw, and will disagree with me, and that&#8217;s OK &#8230; let&#8217;s discuss.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kia Ora my lovelies, This beautiful picture accompanies an article I wrote for the fine folk at Family Times magazine.\u00a0 The article can be found here, I hope you will enjoy it. 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